Seeking shelter from a political storm
www.bonitanews.com Saturday, March 15, 2003 By JANINE A. ZEITLIN, Staff Writer
The beach. The sand. The winterless weather.
Those are some of the reasons why folks settle in Bonita Springs. Few are stopping on a mission to write books on sexuality, fleeing what they see an oppressive government and happening to get baptized as a Presbyterian along the way.
Matilde Faria, a doctor and a psychotherapist from Venezuela, poses in her home office in Bonita Springs adorned with photographs of New York City where she studied for eight years. Faria is now trying to stay in the United States because of the political turmoil in Venezuela. Cameron Gillie/Staff That's what makes 39-year-old Matilde Faria unique.
From a Pennsylvania Avenue duplex peppered with American flags, Faria — a doctor and a psychotherapist in her native Venezuela — came looking for a quiet place to work her two books. Now, amidst political upheaval in Venezuela, Faria, a critic of the country's current leftist administration, says she doesn't feel safe going home. Protests for and against President Hugo Chavez, who was briefly ousted from office in April, have been ongoing for almost two years. General strikes against Chavez have slowed the country's economy.
She is working with the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service to find a way to stay. The First Presbyterian Church of Bonita Springs has embraced the high-energy intellectual and is guiding her in a scramble for a solution as time runs thin.
Faria, the only child of a Venezuelan Army general, was born in Caracas in 1963. Skipping grades in school, she graduated high school at 14 and headed directly to medical school, where she met her fiancée. Upon graduation, her fiancée died in a mountain-climbing accident. Faria cared for her fiancée's parents during the following year in a small town near Caracas.
That's when she discovered a knack for therapy, says Faria, whose coffee table is stacked with books by Freud.
"I forbid myself to cry. His mother came to talk to me and she started to find in me the pyschotherapist and maybe that was an open door," she said.
To leave painful memories behind, she left Venezuela at 21 to attend a language institute in suburban New Jersey and went on to master in human sexuality at New York University in New York City. When her student visa expired, she returned to Venezuela and worked as a therapist. She published a book in 1987 to help children understand their bodies.
"We say these are the eyes, this is the stomach until you just jump into the knees," she said. "If we don't give them the power of knowledge, then people have the power to abuse them."
Soon after the book came out, she moved to Valencia, Venezuela, where she worked until 1999 as a professor teaching education, human sexuality and child development.
In spring 2002, Faria moved to Southwest Florida to translate her children's book into English and write another book about the sexuality of middle-aged women. Her original destination was New York City. She ended up in Bonita because it was only a few hours by plane from Venezuela and she didn't want to subject her dog — whose likeness she has blazoned on a T-shirt — to many hours in the plane's cargo or the drive from Florida to New York.
Staying with a friend of a friend in Naples, she struck out to find her own place. But with no U.S. credit, she landed in a trailer in Rosemary Park. In the midst of rocky times, she found herself in front of the First Presbyterian Church of Bonita Springs and decided to attend. Not raised religiously, a Presbyterian pastor had supported her in New Jersey when she asked for help organizing a memorial for her fiancée.
Her first visit, she felt out of place.
"You can't imagine how the people were looking at me. I looked like a fly in a cup of milk. All these people are Anglo-Saxons!" said Faria, whose dark hair is lobbed in a boyish cut.
The church's pastors reached out to her and she was baptized before joining in June. Hesitant at first, the congregation soon embraced her, especially when George Pattison, a church deacon, and his wife Beth, whom Faria calls her "American parents," included her in church events.
"It wasn't easy but they would take me places and say, 'Well, she's with us. So what about it?'" Faria says. "But I came without anyone and now I have 2,000 members of my family."
Pattison, a-61-year-old New York native, approached her initially because of her background in New York. The Pattisons have helped her in editing her books. He says it's hard not to get to know Faria.
"She's very personable and friendly and led people into her life," he said, noting people are attracted to her uniqueness and sophistication. "Whereas when other people would come into the country they might have bought 25 changes of underwear, she brought artwork."
Riding on a recommendation from the First Presbyterian Church, Faria moved to her current home in July.
She returned to Venezuela for five short days to renew her tourist visa and re-entered the United States and started the process to stay. Church leaders arranged a consultation for her with an immigration lawyer and she applied for a six-month tourist visa extension upon recommendation that applying for political asylum was too difficult.
Christina Leddin, an accredited immigration specialist at the Amigos Center in Bonita Springs, a Hispanic advocacy group, says immigrants run a big risk applying for political asylum. If they don't win the case, they're deported, Leddin said. Leddin says most successful political asylum cases in the area come from Haiti and Colombia, but expects that may change if political turmoil in Venezuela persists.
"Venezuelan political asylum I haven't heard of as much, but as things continue to deteriorate down there, that may happen," she said.
Pattison said church leaders tried to find a place for Faria on staff, but there are no positions in the church for someone whose main professional focus has been sexuality and therapy. Plus, in order to sponsor an immigrant on a work visa the church must prove that it can't hire a local person, he said.
Now, George Pattison is helping Faria look into the possibility of gaining sponsorship to obtain a work visa, pending her receiving a visa extension. He thinks her best option is to gain U.S. nursing certification and attempt to obtain sponsorship from a local medical facility.
Faria — who is deeding the rights of the English version of her children's book to the First Presbyterian Church of Bonita Springs — is crossing her fingers for a yes from INS.
"It's the best thing I can do. They came to me and gave me such a feeling of joy" despite her life's complications, she says.
By month's end, Faria expects an answer from the INS. She says she fears for her life if she's goes back because she was vocal in her opposition of Chavez. She, like other Chavez opponents, says he's running a dictatorship and democratic principles have fallen by the wayside.
"It's another Cuba," Faria says. "Now, I'm not going back. I prefer to be alive than have a bullet in my head. I can't go back."
(Contact Staff Writer Janine Zeitlin at 213-6036 or jazeitlin@naplesnews.com)